I am sadly experiencing a lot specially in village areas this mentality that if you are a woman, you have to be a housewife and produce children in order to be accepted by the village. Because being single means something wrong. NOOO, what wrong is this stupid mentality.
How many times I see desperate girls climbing on guys just to force them to marry and get accepted by the others? How many awful marriage exists around cause they were based on a desperate fear of left alone. And these people are getting married without even discovering who are they indeed, absolutely dependent, and pouring all their unresolved psychological issues on the partner.
I am not saying that all marriages are wrong. I know there are a few which made the effort, put lots of energy in and figured each other out, learnt to love each other and made it. But it is based on a completely different foundation. It is based on respect and trust.
But look around, not so many like this. What we have instead is the continuous judgements in every corner how the woman have to behave to prepare herself to be perfect for the ‘prince’. Newsflash... there is no prince.
There are guys intead, who are shy and hiding and do not dare to approach and even if they dare, a whole village will stand as a judgmental wall watching him and whispering lies into his ears or giving him false instructions from a sick mentality to rule over the girl or worse to break the girl in. Newsflash...women are not horses and the real man is gentle.
There is something we have to learn. Being single is not a sickness. It is the best position to figure out who you trully are, what you are capable of and what do you want to achieve in your life. It is a wonderful journey. And If you choose that one instead of the marriage, it is absolutely ok, and NOBODY has the right to judge you because of your decision. And if you choose to be with a partner without marriage, it is absolutely ok, and NOBODY has the right to judge you because of your decision. And if you choose to be married, it is absolutely ok, and NOBODY has the right to judge you, because of your decision.
What important is, the intention. That whatever you do, do it with pure intention. If you want to be single, do it and bring the best out of it. If you want to be with a partner, do it, and support each other, learn each other love language, help each other to achieve their goals. And if you want to tide the knot, do it. But do it cause you really love the one and you want to share the rest of your life with him/her. DO NOT do it just because it is the expectation or because you are afraid of being alone. #rebuild